Sexuality & Gender

“And the time came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was
more painful than the risk it took to blos­som.” – Anais Nin

My Approach

I am a Cer­ti­fied Sex Ther­a­pist through the Amer­i­can Asso­ci­a­tion of Sex­u­al­i­ty Edu­ca­tors, Coun­selors and Ther­a­pists (AASECT). As such, I am well-trained to work with all issues per­tain­ing to sex­u­al­i­ty and gen­der, and am very com­fort­able hold­ing space with­out judg­ment. I have an expan­sive and flu­id approach to how we con­cep­tu­al­ize our­selves and live our lives. My phi­los­o­phy is informed through a lens of social jus­tice and inclu­siv­i­ty. I cur­rent­ly teach two grad­u­ate-lev­el sex­u­al­i­ty class­es to ther­a­pists in train­ing at San­ta Clara University.

Our sex­u­al­i­ty and our gen­der are a part of who we are, how we express our­selves, and some­times, how oth­ers see us. It may be a large or small part of people’s lives. For some, sex­u­al­i­ty and gen­der are laced with con­fu­sion and pain, expe­ri­enc­ing judg­ment from oth­ers and shame about our own beliefs, iden­ti­ty, bod­ies, desires or lack of desire, etc. 

You may be seek­ing ther­a­py to address spe­cif­ic sex­u­al issues.  Or, you may be seek­ing ther­a­py for an unre­lat­ed issue and not want your ther­a­pist to be unnec­es­sar­i­ly dis­tract­ed by your sex­u­al­i­ty, iden­ti­ty, and/or sex­u­al choic­es if it is not rel­e­vant to your concerns.

Specifics

I wel­come work­ing with you on sex­u­al issues, and/or allow­ing your body, sex­u­al­i­ty and gen­der to be an accept­ed part of who you are. Here is a sam­pling of some of the issues I work with:

•  Sex ther­a­py with indi­vid­u­als and/or cou­ples on a vari­ety of issues, includ­ing:
    • Erec­tile dys­func­tion
    • Rapid or delayed ejac­u­la­tion
    • Dif­fi­cul­ty with orgasm
    • Pain with sex, painful inter­course
    • Low sex­u­al desire and/or mis­matched sex­u­al desire in cou­ples
    • Dif­fi­cul­ties get­ting or stay­ing sex­u­al­ly aroused
    • Sex­u­al behav­iors and/or sex­u­al inter­ests caus­ing dif­fi­cul­ty in relationships/life
•  Kink-aware ther­a­py: All expres­sions of non-tra­di­tion­al sex­u­al inter­ests
•  Alter­na­tive rela­tion­ship agree­ments, such as polyamory, swing­ing, and oth­er con­sen­su­al non-monogamy
•  Sex­u­al & gen­der iden­ti­ty and expres­sion
    •  LGBTQIA+ affir­ma­tive psy­chother­a­py
    •  Trans­gen­der & gen­der expan­sive/flu­id/non-bina­ry iden­ti­ties (includ­ing let­ter
        writ­ing for gen­der affirm­ing med­ical care, if indicated/desired)
•  Inter­sex vari­a­tions & traits
•  Chron­ic ill­ness & sex­u­al­i­ty
•  Aging & sexuality

Please email me to find out more, or text my office at 408–550-5101.

 

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